Habits Of The Chronically Unhappy
Have you ever worked with someone who never seems to be happy or satisfied? Of course, we all have. Many people bounce back and forth between happiness and unhappiness, but some people seem to be stuck in the negative everyday. These people can make everyone around them miserable, make us think about changing jobs, even getting themselves fired. The vast majority of these people have mastered a group of habits that cause their unhappiness. Here are some of those habits.
The Poisonous Habits of Chronically Unhappy People
Ingrained belief is that life is hard.
Everyone understands that life can be hard at times, even understanding that there is a daily struggle. Chronically unhappy people take it to a different level; they dwell in a sense of being victims. Where most people look at a difficult situation and try to find a way out as quickly as possible, unhappy people will stay stuck in the situation, often repeating the behavior that got them there, they believe that life is out to get them. Happy people remain so through perseverance toward solving a problem versus constant complaining and dwelling in victimization.
Truly believe most people are not to be trusted.
All of us know that you must be very discerning when deciding whom to trust, but know there are trustworthy people around us. Happy people believe that there is good in the world and have a heart that is open to others. Unhappy people operate on the assumption that strangers can not be trusted ever. This will close the door to new relationships and makes them hyper-vigilant. Constant suspicion eventually leads them to isolation.
Concentrate on the world’s woes.
There are so many things wrong with the world today. We all worry and discuss different topics everyday, but we also know that there are some good things as well. Chronically unhappy people can not find anything good in the world around them. They are usually the first one to say ”yeah, but” to every positive comment they hear. It is mainly a matter of perspective.
Thrive on jealousy.
Everyone has a tinge of envy from time to time. Whether it is the new car someone drives or a tender gesture their partner offered them. It is human nature and impossible to eradicate. Chronically unhappy people see the good fortune of others as stealing from their chance of ever being happy. Every good thing that happens in someone else’s life is a personal defeat that can not be overcome. Unhappy people will also enjoy seeing something bad happen to people they know, even thinking ”it is about time.”
Striving to achieve goals is a healthy habit. We all do our best to control that aspect of our life, but understand that life is going to throw a curve ball from time to time. That understanding allows happy people to adapt. Chronically unhappy people try to control every aspect of their life to the point of distraction and will absolutely fall apart if everything does not follow their plan.
See their future as being full of worry and fear.
Chronically unhappy people are consumed with worry and fear. Much of it is about the future. They do not have the ability to see that they will be alright. They are dedicated to believing that life is going to keep kicking them until they die. That doesn’t mean that a little uncertainty about the future is unhealthy. Happy people just understand that they can find solutions that will help them at every stage of their life.
Fill their conversation will gossip and complaints.
All unhappy people want to talk about is the pain and misery that they have endured. Their everyday conversation will be framed as if they are suffering the insufferable. The bright spot in their day will be a chance to gossip. It will not be happy gossip about someone’s new partner or promotion. It will be about someone’s break-up or dismissal and it will be discussed with glee. Everyone dips into negative waters from time to time, by unhappy people can not cycle out of the gloom and doom.
Is There Hope For Chronically Unhappy People?
Obviously, none of us are perfect. We all display each of these habits occasionally, but bounce back from them. There is hope for people who can not. According to University of California researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky: ”40 percent of our capacity for happiness is within our power to change.” The key is recognizing the habits, then working to stop them, even if you need to seek outside assistance.